Lovely writing time

This weekend has been full of family activities. I love that. But I crave time to write. So I'm sitting in the gazebo by my sister's pool and I'm going to carve out some time for fiction.

I'm struggling withe the ending of Reality Is Murder, and I want to finish it before I get back into Any Meat in That Soup? It's a good problem to have.

Who Killed My Boss? is doing better than expected. My publisher said since it's my first book and I'm unknown that I should expect to be around 200,000 on the best seller list. A few days ago I was 12,000 and was elated. I've settled around 54,000 now and my publisher and I are coming up with different marketing plans. Exciting for me.

Family time was and is fun. But it's nice when I can sneak away to write. (Wish I didn't have sweet tea. The ants are crazy about it.)

A good day

I was off work today, and it's been a great day. First I was able to announce the publication of my first book, I had a good Physical Therapy session, and then Gus and I volunteered at Blessing Hospital (Bay General in my book). We spent an hour on the Child and Adolescent Psych Unit and then 45 minutes on the Rehab Unit. As usual it was wonderful, and Gus did what he always does. He's a good therapy dog!

Who Killed My Boss?

Buy my book, please! :)

Ahhh! It's finally time. My book is officially published and ready for the public. I hope you check it out and are interested enough to buy it. If you like it, I'd appreciate a review on Amazon, and also please tell your friends about it. The book is available at Who Killed My Boss?

Thanks so much. 

The result will be worth it

The day looks perfect, but before I can enjoy it, there are "chores" to do. First I have to do at least one load of laundry so I have clothes to wear. I haven't done laundry since last Thursday, and was at the Avon Breast Cancer Walk last weekend. When I got home Monday I was exhausted, and remained so all week.

But today, today is different. Gus and I will go to the office for a while so I can catch up on paperwork. Then, with those two chores completed, you can find us sitting outside--maybe Panera, maybe Starbucks. They both are close to my home. Depends on whether I want to be in the sun or not. And I'll write and write and write and write.

My goal is to complete Reality Is Murder before my knee replacement on July 10. Then I'll use the six/seven week recuperation period to work on the second Sam Darling mystery. Although I don't look forward to the surgery and the rehab, I look forward to having uninterrupted writing time.

And no knee pain.

6/5/13 One week away

My book is being formatted and uploaded soon. In one week we'll be able to  order it. It seems unreal that Who Killed My Boss? is finally a reality. I hope people like it for what it is--a humorous, light mystery.

I'm hard at work on a stand-alone book called Reality Is Murder. I'm about 90% done with the first draft, so this is the book that will be published next. The second in the Sam Darling Mysteries is called Any Meat in That Soup? It will be published in 2914. I plan to work on this manuscript when I'm recuperating from knee surgery. It will seem like a luxury to have  six weeks to write without having to go to my other job.

Writing is a joy most of the time. Other times it's almost painful--wringing out words that hopefully make sense and entertain those who read them.

Lost in thought

I should be grading papers because QU grades are due today. But I find I'm lost in thought. 

First of all, I love diversity, and am a champion of people being allowed to be different. But today I'm sad. Certainly I remain sad about the tragedy in CT, but also sad at the response to it.

People are dead. Children are dead. The tortured soul who did this is dead. His mom was a legal gun owner. Friends of hers were interviewed this morning and said she kept her guns locked up, just as she should. Still she's dead. She took her sons to the shooting range and taught them a healthy respect for weapons and how to use them safely. Still she's dead.

And people I know, respect, and love say we should arm teachers. Madness. Sadness.

Combination of things

Yesterday was a mash-up of emotions. Went to QMG Christmas dinner as my sister's date. It was fun being with both my sisters. However after the horrible school massacre in CT, it was hard to get that off our minds. Also got some disturbing health news about a b-i-l. Today I took Gus to the office and worked a few hours, then home for a nice long nap. I have so much work to do for QU, and will need to spend more hours on that.

Cover art for book

Here's something I didn't know--cover art for e-books needs to be more simple and uncluttered than print books. For Who Killed My Boss? I wanted a carriage house on the cover. I have a particular carriage house in mind. It's in Quincy, where the story takes place. The protagonist lives in the carriage house behind the owner's mansion. Those of you from Quincy can picture many such set-ups. Our town has a wonderful abundance of beautiful old homes, many of them with carriage houses. My publisher said when (if) we go to print after the e-version, we can discuss a more detailed cover. For now, she had me look at all the online best sellers with female sleuths. I did and really noticed the difference. Many of them have a few abstract curlicues behind the title and that's it. Others do have less abstract art, but almost all of them are simple. More later about my writing adventure. I'm excited. (And need to get more done on the second in the series--Any Meat in That Soup?)

Writing About Writing AGAIN...

I found out last night that an ePublisher has accepted Who Killed My Boss? for online publication. I'm beyond thrilled. I didn't want to self-publish because there's still a stigma against it--even though many self-published books are awesome. In a few days I'll publish a blurb about the book, and hope that when it's on Amazon that friends and relatives will purchase it. Now, as the publisher and I are finalizing our agreement, I'm starting again on the sequel called Any Meat in That Soup? I need to get some momentum built up so I can get it ready as soon as possible. At the same time I'm going to continue with Reality Is Murder, because I love the plot. Excited? You betcha.

10/28/11 Writing about writing

I miss writing. Technically I'm still the National Mental Health Examiner for examiner.com, but it doesn't move me. In the late 80s and early 90s I wrote a monthly column for the children's agency where I was VP. And at CPI I wrote a lot and was published in several magazines/journals. Those things were fun. But the best writing "fun" I had was right after I joined an online writing community when I was working on my first novel. I'd sit in hotel rooms all over the US and Canada and had nothing to do but write. What a joy that was! When I traveled overseas I wrote my travelogs which turned into my first blog when I lived in the UK. My second blog has dwindled away, usurped by FB.

Back to the unpublished novel--Who Killed My Boss? There were/are some really good parts to it, but the plot seems contrived and the ending wrapped up in a nice little bow, much too easily. The second one (unfinished) is: Is There Any Meat in That Soup? I love the first two lines--"He fell at my feet. Nice place for a man." And that's about all I love about that manuscript. Those two books, in my fantasy world, were the first two in a long series with a beloved protagonist. :) (Hey, I told you it was a fantasy.)

Then several years ago I started a novel about a reality game show set in the wilderness. I still like the idea of it, even though some of the characters were kind of flat. Maybe that one is salvageable--I don't know. Remember NANIWRIMO? I worked on this one during a NANIWRIMO frenzy one November.

Felt like writing about writing today. Thanks for indulging me in my narcissistic musings.

2/3/11 Pictures of the blizzard

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5/1/10 Recent articles

Mental Health Examiner--Bullying: She committed suicide, were the bullies at fault?

Mental Health Examiner--Strike three for smokers: Third-hand smoke is identified as dangerous

Mental Health Examiner--Zero tolerance policies in schools: Necessary or overreaction?

Mental Health Examiner--Biggest Loser: A risky way to lose weight?

Mental Health Examiner: When your child or loved one commits suicide

1/30/10 It's been a long time

I feel like I have nothing to say, but that's never stopped me before.

Right now I'm sick and crabby. Tired of it. This bronchitis or pneumonia or whatever the hell this is is making me sick (oh, a play on words). My head hurts, my chest hurts, my throat hurts, and I'm so sick of coughing.

Okay I'm done complaining. Here are some articles I forgot to post on my blog.

Mental Health Examiner: The technology of Avatar isn't as far off as you think

Mental Health Examiner: Haitian earthquake a result of a pact with the devil? Pat Robertson thinks so 'video'

Mental Health Examiner: Scared to tell your boss about a mental health issue?

Mental Health Examiner: Disorganization got you down?

12/24/09 Christmas Eve

I'm so very excited. Christmas Eve brings me back to my childhood with all the same excitement and wonder. I absolutely adore getting together with my siblings and their families. Can't wait.


Mental Health Examiner: Quest for physical perfection killed former Miss Argentina http://bit.ly/74uT8M

Mental Health Examiner: Drunk four-year-old (Hayden Wright) accused of stealing presents '(video)' http://bit.ly/8q3t2w

Mental Health Examiner: Pets can be a great antidote to holiday stress http://bit.ly/85wdKL

11-22-09 What a gorgeous day!

Can't believe it's almost the end of November. What a fantastic, warm day. It was fun spending some of it outside with Gus.


Chicago Reality TV Examiner--The Amazing Race: On way to finale

11/5 and 11/6/09 Profit off of tragedy

I absolutely hate making money off of a tragedy--but that's my mind of a social worker instead of a reporter. Am sure getting a lot of hits on the site.

Mental Health Examiner: What made Major Malik Nadal Hasan shoot?

Mental Health Examiner--Fort Hood Texas Army Base mass shooting: Allahu akbar--the cry of a mentally ill man or a terrorist?

11/3/09 class reunion and...

Had a class reunion planning meeting at Mr. Bill's. Too bad I'm on call and couldn't have a beer. Drat.

One article tonight is Mental Health Examiner: Is technology messing up our memories? I'll write another one tonight but will post it tomorrow. Am tired.

11/1/09 Sunday

Gus and I spent more than two hours at the dog park and he is happily sleeping on the floor where he passed out almost immediately after returning home. It's so enjoyable for me to see him having so much fun with other dogs.

Chicago Reality TV Examiner--The Amazing Race: Play golf or dance

10/29/09 Stayed home

Stayed home from work today because I started feeling bad yesterday afternoon. Thank God it's not the flu, though. It's a head cold or something like that. Headache, eye ache, body aches. No fever and no stomach problems, so I'm confident it's not the flu. I only have to work a half day tomorrow so will stay home again...

Slept all day long which is an unbelievable luxury.


Chicago Reality TV Examiner--Survivor Samoa: Is Shambo just one of the guys?

10/25/09 A fun weekend

We all had such a great time at Matt and Beth's fall festival. It was so much fun with super people and delicious food. Beth even made meatless chili, which was very tasty. I forgot to bring some home with me. Drat.

Today, Gussie and I went to the Padua Pet Parade at QU, but I messed up and got there late. We were in time to see the ending, which was nice, and we were able to give a present for the Humane Society.

Then Gus and I went to the dog park and the only dogs that were there were the small ones, so this was a perfect day for Gus. He got to play with pals who were just the right size.

Chicago Reality TV Examiner--The Amazing Race: Face your fears or go home

10/19/09 Another busy day

Had to take Gus in for a steroid shot. He's been scratching himself raw and biting himself. Turns out he's more like me than I thought. Allergies. Poor thing. I felt so bad for him. But it was great that the vet got him in right away. Then Elizabeth gave him a bath so he looked pretty, errr...I mean handsome.

Mental Health Examiner--Balloon boy controversy: Would you ask your kids to lie?

Felt like I got a lot done at home today, but my house sure doesn't show it. Too bad.

Chicago Reality TV Examiner--The Amazing Race: Is it hot or is it hot?

10/15/09 Two articles

Mental Health Examiner: Was six-year-old boy in a balloon at 7,000 feet?
Chicago Reality TV Examiner--Survivor Samoa: Try it, you'll like it--or not

10/13/09 Working out

Another nice workout with Jan at the aquaaerobics class at QU. It was fun, and this was the best workout ever. My back was hurting, but I kept with it and will keep trying, because this is supposed to help. I really appreciate that Jan encouraged me to do this.


Tonight's article is Chicago Reality TV Examiner--Biggest Loser: Tracy has a guardian angel or is in league with the devil

10/11/09 About Obama again. No need to read if you are tired of this.

I've listened to other people's opinions and respect their right to those opinions. Contrary to what some people think, I've never followed a president blindly and am not doing so now. I'm listening to both sides, although I must admit that Rush Limbaugh's incendiary rhetoric is long on falsehood and short on truth. Here's a thoughtful response to Obama getting the Nobel Peace Prize. It doesn't do any namecalling, but it quotes reasons why people in the past have gotten the reward. I liked her perspective.



Tonight's article: Chicago Reality TV Examiner--The Amazing Race: Passports are important

10/8/09 A fun weekend

Tomorrow I'm going to Davenport with Jan. And on Saturday night we're driving to Des Moines to see Wicked. I'm so excited. Have been singing the songs from the show for years and now I finally get to see it. It's the national tour.

And I can't wait to see Kris and Brian's home. Should be a fun weekend.


Tonight's article is Chicago Reality TV Examiner--Survivor Samoa: Waiting for Jeff on the beach

10/6/09 Another workout

Jan and I went to aqua aerobics again tonight, and it was a much better workout this week. I took it easy however, because last week I couldn't even finish teaching on Wednesday night. Can't believe that damn water aerobics did me in like that. And tonight I can already feel it starting, but perhaps with some extra pain meds I'll feel okay tomorrow. Sure hope so.


Tonight's article: Chicago Reality TV Examiner--The Biggest Loser: Don't move, Tracy

10/5/09 Women dish on their guys

Good day at work but lots of pain. Pain for no reason pisses me off.

National Mental Health Examiner: Women dish on their guys

I'd love it if you would leave comments on the site...you can be anonymous if you want.

10/4/09 A great lunch

Lunch at Maya with 30 members of my immediate family was so much fun. (Are brothers and sisters etc. "immediate family"?) It was so great seeing Craig, Megan, Ian, and Kris. Ian has grown into such a friendly little fellow. It was fun watching him smile at everyone.

Chicago Reality TV Examiner--The Amazing Race: Like being dropped off on Mars

10/1/09 Two articles

Worked 12 hours today but wrote one article during lunch and another after work tonight. And I left my phone at work and that drives me CRAZY.

Mental Health Examiner--Mental Health 101: Five communication recommendations

Chicago Reality TV Examiner--Survivor Samoa: The Russell seed

9/29/09 The Biggest Loser, etc.

Tonight's article Chicago Reality TV Examiner--The Biggest Loser: Trainers versus a two pound advantage

Had an early dentist appointment then worked all day. After work met Jan for water aerobics. Was there from 5:15 until 6:45, so I got a lot of good exercise. Thanks for going with me, Jan.

But I'm really tired. Am on call so sure hope the pager doesn't go off.

Sarah, thanks for walking Gus.

9/27/09 Two articles

Chicago Reality TV Examiner--The Amazing Race: The beginning and the end for one team

Chicago Reality TV Examiner--The Amazing Race: Vietnam, here we come

Other than that, Gussie and I have had a quiet day. We've enjoyed the backyard together, but that's about it.

9/26/09 A good Saturday

Gus and I started at Panera for breakfast--then spent some quality time at the office. :) Then off to the Pet Expo at the Oakley Lindsey Center where Gus scored some great goodies.

At home Gus got to play outside while Uncle Tim cut the grass. I think he had fun.

I went to dinner tonight with Jane, Pete, Jordan, Lyndsey, Deb, and Diane. First time at Kutter's and had an excellent pizza. Now it's time to put clean sheets on the bed, and get ready to watch the SNL season premiere. Tomorrow night I'll post about the new Amazing Race.

Mental Health Examiner: A hearty laugh can make your day

9/24/09 Hey there I'm really tired

I think I work too many jobs, but I'm not willing to give anything up. So we'll see how I manage this.

Chicago Reality TV Examiner--Survivor Samoa: Russell the Evil thinks he's the puppetmaster

9/22/09 One more for the road

Chicago Reality TV Examiner--Biggest Loser: All for one and one for all

9/22/09 Two VERY different articles

The Emmys got it right for Reality Shows


Mental Health Examiner--Domestic violence: Guerline stayed with husband and now she and her five children are dead

9/17/09 Two articles

12 hours at the office and still wrote two articles. I'm beat. :)

http://www.examiner.com/examiner/x-1906-Mental-Health-Examiner~y2009m9d17-Workplace-violence-From-Yale-University-to-your-office-it-never-goes-away



Chicago Reality TV Examiner--Survivor Samoa: The man you love to hate

9/15/09 Two new reality shows

Chicago Reality TV Examiner--Big Brother 11: Finale
Chicago Reality TV Examiner--The Biggest Loser: It's time to start over

No time to write anything else.

9/13/09 Reality TV--Big Brother

Chicago Reality TV Examiner--Big Brother 11: Highlights from the season

9/12/09 A day

Today was a day. Yep. And tomorrow will be another one.

I slept in excessively today and missed Weight Watchers. But according to my scale I stayed the same, so I guess it's okay.

Went shopping with Jane and Sarah after lunch. Hit Hobby Lobby, Kohl's and Dollar Tree. Unfortunately, it did in my back and I couldn't go to the celebration at Blessed Sacrament tonight.

Article is: Mental Health Examiner--They call themselves patriots but some are xenophobic, jingoistic, and racist

9/10/09 A very long day

I worked 8 AM until 8 PM two nights in a row, so am beat. But I did write an article,



Chicago Reality TV Examiner--Big Brother 11: It all comes down to the final HOH

9/8/09 A provocative article, I think

I'll probably get a lot of hits on this one, and a bunch of negative comments. But that's life.


What do people have to be paranoid about, now that Obama's school speech is over?

And the reality tv article Big Brother 11: Only three houseguests are left

9/7 No labor Labor Day

Went out to lunch with Jane and Sarah, then an exciting jaunt to KMart. I've written one article today and have one more to do. Plus one more load of laundry. Yep, I've put everything off until the last moment as usual.


Today's Reality TV article--Big Brother 11: I want you to be in the final two with me

9/5/09 A good weigh in

I lost 3.4 pounds and am now down 22.2 pounds with about a thousand to go. But I'm feeling positive.

After WW, Gus and I went to Starbucks and then to the office for a few hours. Have been taking it easy since then.

Today's Reality TV article: Real Chance of Love 2: Junk's name describes what she's throwing around

9/4/09 Eating tonight and weigh in tomorrow

Had dinner with Jane, Pete, and Sarah at Elder's. I sure shouldn't have gone there and eaten french fries--I have to weigh in tomorrow morning. Yikes. But I skipped last week for no good reason and I really have to go tomorrow.

Then Jane, Sarah, and Jordan came over and Sarah and I watched the Hannah Montana movie. It was predictable but really cute and had some good music in it. And Gus sure liked having company.

I wrote two articles tonight. Hope you enjoy at least one of them. :) Thanks for reading--thanks for at least clicking. :)

Big Brother 11: Do good guys finish last or will Jeff stay in the game?


Online therapy: My name is Eliza, how may I help you?

9/3/09 Reality TV Examiner

First one and after two 12 hour days I'm too tired to post more. :)

The Colony loses George, their doctor

9/1/09 Just an article, that's it.

Wait--Chris Brown does remember attacking Rihanna

8/31/09 Great exercise for Gussie

Another bad day, back-wise, so Gussie's exercise consisted of walking across the alley to the gas station to buy some trash stickers. Then he walked out in front while I placed my recyclables at the curb. He really thought he got a nice walk since he had his leash on. And I don't even feel guilty.

Tonight's article is: Chris Brown "doesn't remember" assaulting Rihanna

8/30/09 Lazy Sunday

Slept in and all I did all day was work on the computer. Lazy day, but it felt good.

Tonight's article: Mental Health Examiner: Do you live in a stressed-out city?

Last night had dinner at Jan and Tim's. My oh my the food was good. I ate way too much. Had to get back "on the wagon" today.

8-28-09 No new site yet

My Examiner boss is having trouble setting up my new site, but hopefully it will be done soon. In the meantime, here's tonight's mental health article: Worrying about losing your job causes high stress, even more than we thought

8/25/09 Puppies, puppies, and more puppies

Am going to see two Shih Tzu pups tomorrow. Free. Purebred. Just hope some family members want one. I know they are going to be adorable.

Applied yesterday for another examiner position--national Reality Show Junkie Examiner.

Tonight's article is: What role did Michael Jackson play in his own death?

Am tired out tonight. Will probably hit the sack early. Well, maybe after just one more game of Farkle... (fingers crossed behind my back)

8/23/09 A beautiful Sunday

We all had such a good time out at the cabin. Thanks so much John and Paulette. Everything was perfect.

Today's weather was gorgeous. Didn't do much. Ate a lot of fried green tomatoes, because when I have green tomatoes in my house I just can't help it. Who else in the world has an addiction to fried green tomatoes? What a dork.

Gus and I walked for a mile throughout the university and it was fun seeing all the kids settling in for the year.

My latest article is Compassion versus justice: Scotland releases Lockerbie bomber

8-22-09 Pedicures and puppies

I took Gussie with me when I got a pedicure. He absolutely loved it. First he had to smell everything because these were brand new smells for him. Then Kaitlyn and Jaden came in--the owners' kids. So Gus had a ball while I was relaxing and getting my toes prettified.

This afternoon we're going to John's cabin for a big family picnic. I'm excited. My sisters are bringing their dogs too, so should be fun.

Today's article is Does Kate--of Jon and Kate Plus8--have OCD?

8/21/09 A good day

I worked a half day then picked up Gussie. We went to QU to get my ID updated and I brought him in with me. It was really fun to watch everyone's faces. School hasn't started yet so I thought what the heck.

Then I slept all afternoon. And this evening went to Germanfest with Jan, Tim, Uncle Bill, John, Jane, Pete, and Sarah. I really enjoyed myself. Because of my recent bout with back "stuff" I couldn't polka with Jan like we always have done, but did do the chicken dance with Jan. (And, Jan, I'm paying the price as I feared, but I promise not to call you and cry.)

Here's my first article as the national Mental Health Examiner--Autism service dogs: True service dogs or merely comfort animals?

8/18/09 Gus is a star

Gus is a star in the Alpha Dog commercial. He's in it a few places, but at the very end he runs toward the camera all by himself. I'm so proud of my little buddy. It'll be on KHQA through 8/31. Elizabeth showed me at Alpha Dog today, but I saw it during the news tonight. Gee, this is fun. I hope to catch it on video.

Tonight's article is: They gave a second chance to Michael Vick's dogs: Does he deserve a second chance too?

8-15 Back home

After a fantastic vacation, I'm back to normal. (Normal?) Am working on publishing photos on Facebook, but am running into just a little trouble. I promise they'll be there by tomorrow.

Today was great--my sisters, niece Sarah, and I volunteered at HELP which is a back to school extravaganza, providing many needed services for kids going back to school. Back to school physicals, sports physicals, dental exams, clothing, haircuts, school supplies and backpacks, and probably more--all these services were offered today. It was wonderful. The other family members have been doing it for four or five years, but this is my first one. Won't be my last.

Then afterward a whole bunch of us met at Cassano's for Jane's belated birthday lunch. It was fun and delicious.

Tonight's article is: Euthanasia: Australian with quadraplegia has right to die.

7/31 Gus's health

Gus got a clean bill of health (thank you, God). He just has seasonal allergies and the vet gave him a steroid shot which will last 4 to 6 weeks. He's already scratching and sneezing less. I'm so grateful.

As for me, my back's been bad the last three weeks or so. So maybe the good treatment Dr. Ghalimbour gave me is starting to wear off. Who knows... it's just a day to day thing I guess.

My article tonight is President Obama's inauguration one of the happiest days

7/27 Poor little Gus

He's been breathing kind of weird lately so I made an appointment for him on Friday morning. Then when I got home today he had thrown up on the couch. I knew it was him because there were no hairballs in it. I can't remember the last time he threw up, so I knew the little guy was sick. BUT that must have made him feel a lot better because he finally showed some energy and acted like he felt good. So I took him to the dog park (couldn't make myself take him for a mile walk tonight). He had fun there. Besides a Rhodesian Ridgeback, there was an Afghan and a Great Dane. Such huge dogs. I tried but I couldn't get them in a picture together. He's sound asleep now at my feet. I can't get him to move at all.


Tonight's article is City Secrets: More than 2,000 psychoanalysts converge on Chicago

7/25 A good day except for WW

I've loved today. This morning I went to WW and gained a half pound--BUT it was my only gain in 11 weeks and I feel really good about that. Today I'm starting counting my points using my iPhone and that will make things easier. No excuses.

Then Sarah and I took Gussie to lunch and to the dog park. Dropped him back at home and we went to see The Ugly Truth--probably the funniest chick flick I've ever seen. Sarah and I were embarrassingly LOUD with our laughter. We both heartily recommend it. Especially the panties part. (I'm laughing out loud just thinking about it.)

After I dropped Sarah off, I again picked up Gussie and we went to the park to the Curran family reunion, at Mark's invitation. I saw so many people that I knew (especially Cathy, with whom I went to school, and Mark of course). Mark's daughter Nikki is absolutely stunning with stunning children too. Such fun.

Then Gus and I came home and walked for a mile using my iPhone GPS pedometer. It only cost $1.99 and is fantastic.

A truly good day.

Tonight's article is: Obama, Crowley, and Gates: Let's sit down and have a beer

7-20 Weekend

It ended up being a good weekend, topped off with taking Gus to the dog park, swimming at Jan's, and eating a GREAT meal at her house. I think I like it when Tim goes out of town--Jan cooked vegetarian. I'm a lucky bug.

Tonight's article is Chris Brown apologizes: Is it enough?

7/17 Gussie's friend, Chance

He is adorable but he's marking his territory all over my house. I can't stand it. I've left both dogs outside as much as I can but they are both crying to get in. I'm going to put him in a crate and then will try to sleep. Hope it works.

Tonight's article: Feel-good Friday: Four types of food that slim your belly

7/14 Dog park

Yesterday Gus and I went to the dog park again after I got home from work. Some of his pals from the previous day were there, and it's becoming a social event for me as well as for him. Nice to see people I already "knew."

Today, I don't need to take him because he was at doggy day care and is already tired out.

The article tonight is called Trichotillomania: Pulling your hair out.

7/12 Dog park

The dog park opened today, and Gussie and I were there. For about 90 minutes he ran with other dogs and seemed to have so much fun. It tired me out just watching.

Tonight's article is The deadliest day of the week.

7/11 Does size really matter?

Thought that would get your attention. That's the title of my article tonight--Clothing labels: Does size really matter?

On another note, just returned from a wonderful, wonderful dinner at Debbie's. She and her two girls really put on a spread. Wish I could have eaten more, it was that good. Thanks so much for inviting me.

Tomorrow the dog park opens and I'm really happy. For $10 a year your pooch and run and play with other dogs. I love keeping Gussie socialized. Plus I haven't felt like walking him all week, and I feel guilty. Feel okay tonight, courtesy of sangria.

Gotta run. Bed is calling.

7/7 The good and bad

It's been wonderful seeing our old friend, Ron Johnson, these past few days. He, Tim, and Phil were army buddies, stationed together in Hawaii. Ron knew Robbie really well as a little guy, because after I had major surgery Phil had to go to the field and Ron came back to Hawaii and took care of Robbie (and me) until Phil got back.

Plus he was instrumental in us getting Jill. There's a longer story there that I'll save for another time. He's a great guy.

Just returned from Tiramisu where Jan, Tim, Ron, Uncle Bill and I had dinner. Delicioso!

Tonight's article is Michael Jackson media coverage: Stick a fork in it, it's done.

7/1 Humor about death

My family is always making morbid jokes. The body will be hardly cold before we start cracking jokes. So--this is all about Michael...

How soon is too soon to laugh about Michael Jackson's death?

6/25 Quick post

I worked 12 hours today so am in a hurry. Great news from Kris and Brian--a baby is on the way. We are all thrilled.

Tonight's quick article--Why do we mourn when celebrities die?

6/22 I didn't win

Went to the Hyundai/Honda dealer to check my numbers from the newspaper and guess what? I didn't win $50,000. Okay, check that off my to-do list.

Enjoyed work today. I really think I helped some people. Found someone else who sees Jane for medical services. Lots of people seek mental health services after seeing Jane. You do the math.

Tonight's article is Chris Brown plea bargains a deal.

Now for dinner--thanks, Cindy, for the pasta salad. I can't wait to dive in.

6/21 A super fathers' day

We had a good time at the Gustison Family Reunion. Lots of visiting, games and food. Wow. I'm still full. Looking forward to the next time. Gussie had a great time too.


Tonight's article is Rihanna a reluctant witness against Chris Brown.

6/20 Rainy days

Note this is not a complaint, merely an observation: I slept a lot of the day asleep because I have a migraine. The weather has played havoc with most of my body, head, back, hips, leg, shoulders, etc. This is the gift of arthritis. Mix it with rainy weather and voila!

Jan called. She, Tim, Joe and Cindy are going to Junefest to meet some other family members, but I just didn't feel like going. They'll have a good time, I'm sure.

Tomorrow is the Gustison family reunion. Sure hope the rain stays away so we can have a great time. It's always fun when the family gets together.

Tonight's article is Psychologists and torture

6/15 Weird tv

Our cable network has our local CBS affiliate as the ABC station too. Does anyone know about this? I spent 40 minutes in an online chat with Comcast personnel and they told me about it. I was just reporting that our ABC affiliate seemed to be gone.

Maybe someone else in Quincy knew about this. Did you?

And tonight Gussie met the blind miniature dachshund across the street, Johnson.


Tonight's article is: Another family dead in murder suicide

6/14 I love weekends

Yesterday WW told me I stayed the same. And after two weeks of family events I'm pretty darn proud of that. Now to get back to really working on getting healthy.

Last night was St. Francis Parish Picnic. Absolutely perfect weather. It's great to see people you went to school with and their parents, spouses, and kids. I love it. Trouble is--last year was my first year back and I was in the midst of really bad back pain so just stayed a short while. (Plus ate a giant sno cone and onion rings. Boy did that ever make me sick.)

So I was really looking forward to last night. Unfortunately my back was a problem. I didn't eat or drink anything and stayed a little more than an hour. I'd been doing well for a few months, but I think dancing at two weddings in a row might have done me in. Today it's still bad, so I'm hoping a little rest (but not too much) will help.

I can tell you this because I don't have my "no complaint" bracelet on yet. At work we got purple bracelets from a Complaint Free World. Here are the "rules":

"Suggested Rules

Begin to wear the bracelet, on either wrist.

When you catch yourself complaining, gossiping or criticizing (it’s ok, everyone does) move the bracelet to the other arm and begin again.

If you hear someone else who is wearing a bracelet complain, you may point out their need to switch the bracelet to the other arm; BUT if you’re going to do this, you must move your bracelet first!

Stay with it. It may take many months but when you reach 21 days you will find that your entire life is happier, more loving and more enjoyable."

On the website it also says that you can say something with a negative connotation as long as there's no ego involved in it. You can tell the waiter that your soup is cold--that's just a statement of fact. It's the comments to your friend afterward that's complaining. It's okay for me to say my back hurts, but when I say my back hurts and I didn't get to stay at the picnic and everyone else was having a good time without me and I didn't even get to have one beer, etc. That's complaining. Which is why, if I had my bracelet on, I would have moved it to the other wrist. I'm trying to go 21 days straight without complaining. Not easy. But I've gone several days, then just mess up. The nice thing is that the bracelet isn't judgmental. :)

Last night's article is Reality show junkie?

6/10 Good and bad

So many great things have happened and also so many crummy things. It's life--up and down, in and out, sick and well, life and death. Humans are both the best and worst of the species on the earth.

Tonight's article is the shortest one I've written and has the longest title.

Anxious and depressed because of lack of sleep: Maybe it's all in your genes

6/3 I'm alive

Yes, I'm alive, but still very tired. Started my new job on Monday of this week. But that was after a wonderfully fun-filled week and weekend with family. Kris and Brian's wedding was beautiful and the reception was off the hook. (Never thought I'd use that phrase.)

I loved every minute of Rob and Beata's visit and they are safely back in North Carolina now. Miss you guys already.


Tonight's article is Texting: Good, bad, or neutral for your kids?

5/26 Getting close

They aren't here yet, but are getting close.

Tonight's article is Update: Parents agree to chemo treatment for son

5/25 So much excitement

Rob and Beata (and Chilli) are on the road and should arrive tomorrow sometime. I can't wait.

Have been straightening up the house and have put in some more flowers in the yard. But I'll need help with more of them. The last poppy faded into oblivion--the storm knocked off the petals, so that made me sad. Wanted R and B to see those huge orange blooms. And of course Gussie had to pee on the rug. He's not had an accident in weeks. Guess this is to greet Chilli and let him know whose house it is.

Article tonight is Update: Arrest warrant lifted on cancer patient's mother

5-23-09 A great start to the weekend

Went to WW this morning and lost another three pounds so that makes me smile.

After breakfast with Jane and family, Gus and I went to work for a few hours. I have my new office pretty well organized. Now I just need to get some work done, which I'll do on Memorial Day.

Tonight we went for dinner at Jan and Tim's. Oh my it was so good and the weather was perfect. Gus had fun with their three dogs.

Tonight's article: The 90-years-plus club

5/20 Just everything

The poppies are blooming and will soon be gone. Some of the columbine are blooming with many more to come. The peonies are glorious and cheer me when I come home from work. Thanks so much Kris and Jan for making my beautiful little oasis.

My contributions are helping too. The only bad news is that the pole holding the birdhouse and flowers fell over during a bad storm. Jan thought she had it so far in the ground that it wouldn't dare fall over. Too bad. You tried, Sis.

I'll have Rob re-pot it. :) Plus he gets to put together my patio table and chairs.

He and Beata should be here Tuesday sometime. I'm taking off Wednesday and Friday, plus Thursday morning. I'm so excited.

Article tonight is--Update: Is it okay to let your child die?

5/18 Yum

Had another hard day at work, and Jane gave me some homemade soup. I don't have to cook tonight. As soon as I'm finished publishing this, I'm diving in. And she gave me a WW dessert too. Yay.

Tonight's article is Mothers have great influence over children's social skills

5/17 A beautiful day

What a gorgeous day, huh? Gussie and I walked for a mile or so. Then we went to Panera where Gussie held court again. My oh my he is so popular, and he behaves perfectly there. Quite unlike at home. I mean he's good at home but when a person comes in he jumps all over them. Not at Panera. He is a perfect gentleman. I love it and I'm happy he's so popular.

Tonight's article is Is it okay to let your child die?

Just a little over a week and Rob and Beatka will be here. I can't wait.

5/16 A good (and lazy) Saturday

Jane and I weighed in at WW and both did very well. Then Gussie and I went to the office for more than three hours. Afterward I came home and have been sleeping off and on. Have a terrible headache--a sure sign the weather will get bad again. Maybe it's a stress headache though and not related to weather at all. We'll see. And stress is probably why I'm so tired. But I move offices on Wednesday even though I'm still "the boss" until June 1.

Am on call right now so my slumber has been interrupted by crisis calls. How dare they! :)

Tonight's article is In the military you don't want anyone to think you're "crazy" (Hey, I have to have interesting titles to get people to read the articles.)

5/12 Storm's a'comin'

The air looks a weird shade of green outside my house. Don't know how I'd get all my pets in the basement if necessary. But I'd do it. Anyway, I think the really bad storms won't come until tomorrow night. We'll see....

Tonight's article is When a pet dies: Grieving is grieving and love is love

5/11 A good lunch and more

We had a healthy lunch at work for all of us who signed up for the getting fit program. It was a wonderful salad bar. But the fun was afterward. We got a lesson in Tai Chi. I've wanted to try that for a long time. And it was actually enjoyable. Very slow but I can feel that we did it.

Everyone says that Tai Chi is really good for your overall health, and the teacher talked a lot about arthritis and bad backs, so I know it was for me.

Tonight's article is New type of workplace violence: Women bullying women

5/10 Happy Mothers' Day

I've had a great day. Bought some outside furniture. (Thanks, Pete, for unloading it for me.) Gus and I sat outside while I started reading Twilight. I LOVE IT!

Rob and Beata called me today and so did Jill, so my Mothers' Day was perfect. Plus I got a package from B and R with a lovely turquoise necklace and earrings. Additionally, a shout out on Facebook, an email, and a text. How connected is that? I'm so grateful. Love you all so much.

Last night was tons of fun at Kris's bachelorette party. It started at 4 and I was done by 8. This is a real down side of being old. But it sure was fun while it lasted. :)

Tonight's article is Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi: Moms trust them most and so do I

5/8/09 A great day

My sister and brother-in-law (Jan and Tim) are celebrating their 38th wedding anniversary. That's really something to celebrate!

And 54 years ago today I made my first Communion. Another day to celebrate. :) I remember it very clearly. Feeling like a 7-year-old bride in my white dress and veil. It was such a special feeling. After the Mass, we went home and had a really big party and I got so many presents. I remember my godfather, Uncle Bob, gave me a statue of Mary and I treasured that for many years. Don't know what happened to it, but probably one of my five brothers broke it. When in doubt, blame it on your brother.

Tonight's article is Feel-good Friday: Use this plate to lose some weight

5/6 Last class

Tonight was the last class at QU for this semester. I love teaching, but it will be nice to have my Wednesdays back for a while. Thanks, Cindy, for taking care of Gussie all these weeks. You'll have some time off too. :)

Today was so crazy at work. I keep saying to myself--June 1 isn't that far away. The stress just exhausts me.

Tonight's article is a "feel-good" one for me--Katrina students graduate

5/5 A very long day

After a long day at work we had a dinner at Tony's Too for a colleague who's leaving. (I'm taking his place.) So I'm pooped.

But I still had to write an article. Tonight's is Second swine flu death confirmed: Stay calm

5/4 I've been a good girl

So far I've stuck to my eating plan. But now am sure ready for dinner. Just walked about a half mile tonight because of a dumb old foot, but it was sure nice anyway.

On our walk we stopped to see Cindy, Eric and Julie. And Kirby was a lunatic. Such a funny dog.

Tonight's article--Panic attacks: They can be cured

5/3 Fairly productive

Gussie and I walked a mile today, I watered my flowers, picked up the house, cleaned up a hairball (thanks, kitties), went to the grocery store, wrote my article and did laundry. Makes me tired just to read it. :)

Tonight's article is--Do you really want to know if someone is lying to you?

5/2 A day with ups and downs

A huge happy birthday to my favorite grand-daughter. Kayla is 9 years old today. Can't believe it. It seems like just yesterday I was holding this beautiful infant girl in my arms. She's still beautiful though. And quite the soccer player. She told me today, "You won't believe what happened. Mommy and Daddy and Uncle Joe and Aunt Cindy...(I had no idea where this was going)...gave me the same birthday card--a dalmatian with spots. Isn't that funny?"

She's adorable.

Then Pete had some problems today which caused a trip to the ER. He's absolutely fine now, but it caused a lot of worry for a short time.

Jan and I (and Gussie) went to the Juvenile Diabetes Walk at South Park. We were supposed to walk for an hour. Gussie and I made it for 33 minutes. Afterward Jan came over and planted some more flowers I'd bought. She's helped me so much and my backyard is looking really good. Last year the garden went to pot because I couldn't do anything at all. I can't do much now, but can do some things.

Jane, Pete, and I just returned from Ruby Tuesday for dinner. It was very good. Jane and I re-joined Weight Watchers this morning and we behaved very well at dinner.


Tonight's article is--Swine flu: More racist comments

5/1 Relaxing

I took the afternoon off and am happy. This afternoon I bought more goodies for my garden. Can't wait to plan more items, but may have to wait for Rob and Beata to arrive for some help. Jan said she may have time soon to do more planting. I'm okay either way.

Went to dinner at Maya tonight with Jan, Jane, Kris, and Sarah. It was delicious as usual. Then I wrote an article about racism--and mentioned Maya in it.

The flu virus isn't as bad as the racism virus

4/30 I'm not tired

Like hell I'm not. Another 12 hour day. Can't wait until June 1--the day I'm no longer a supervisor.

Tonight's article: Swine flu: It's not funny anymore

4/28/09 Have I ever said I'm tired?

That was a joke question. I know I say it all the time. But I am really tired and looking forward to going to bed in an hour or so and watching the DVR versions of Dancing with the Stars and Biggest Loser. Gussie is already sleeping--he had a wonderful day with his pals at Alpha Dog. I got to hold a puppy again today. They are adorable.

Tonight's article is Chicago high school is special in more ways than one

4/27 Rain rain go away

As I write this Gussie is out in the rain, in the mud hole where the sump pump water comes out. He is having so much fun that even my yelling at him didn't stop him. I've got to go get him soon and bathe him, but know that he will do it again if given the chance.

Tonight's article is School violence: Want to fight about it?

4/26/09 Another great day

Jan and I spent the day together. We bought flowers and plants for my garden and then came back here and Jan did all the hard work. She really knows her stuff though and I'm learning a little from her. I now know how to put down newspaper and mulch. :) And I know how to tell Rob what to do with the rest of the plants. So thanks a million, Jan, for all your help.

We also went out to lunch which was so relaxing and enjoyable for me. I look forward to eating with family on the weekend.

Joe and Cindy helped me out too, by bringing extra mulch.

It indeed was a very good day, but now I have to get in a hot shower because I'm getting stiff. Gussie already had his bath from being a mud dog while we were outside. He sure had a ball. Love to all.

Tonight's article: Narcissism epidemic: Is it true?

4/25/09 Another good day

Gus and I had a fun day. This morning I (without my faithful companion) went to Great Debate books downtown. Off Broadway, the coffee house located inside, had free coffee and food for QU professors and adjuncts. I met some nice people, including reconnecting with Jimmy's old girlfriend, Barb, who reminded me of when they would come over to John's and my house on Maine Street. (Not brother John, husband John.)

Then I picked up Gus and we went to my office for a few hours. Following that, a leisurely trip to the pet store and we saw Cindy out in the parking lot. She was buying more flowers for her beautiful garden.

This afternoon Jane called and asked if I wanted to go to Jan's for dinner and I yelled SURE! The food was awesome and so was the company. Just got home and finished up the article I'd started earlier in the day.

Now you can 'think' instead of type your Twitter message

4/24 A good life

At 1 I met Jan, Tim, Pete, Jane, Sarah, Jordan, and Ashley for lunch at Krieger's. What a perfect way to spend part of Friday afternoon. Cindy walked by and we chatted with her a while.

Jan stopped by my house a little later with some lovely flowers for my garden. She's the greenest thumbed person I know and she'll help me know the weeds from the not-weeds. Of course I can't do much work myself, but I'm feeling pretty good and can surely do some.

We spoke of all the activities going on this summer, and I think I'm going to walk in the Susan B Koman 5k in Peoria with Jan, Kristen, and Jane. Because we're missing the Avon Breast Cancer Walk this year, we want to do something.

Gus and I took a mile walk this afternoon too, and I saw John (our brother). It was nice to talk to him too. (Oh, yesterday I forgot to blog that it wasn't just Gussie's birthday, it was Bozie's too. And speaking of cats, Allie Cat had diarrhea on my bedroom carpeting this morning. But I still love her.)

Tonight's article: Feel-good Friday: Vaginas don't have teeth.

I'm so happy to be in Quincy. There are so many family events going on and I would have been so jealous if I were still in Biloxi. I love you guys.

4/23 Happy birthday, dear Gussie....

Happy birthday to the Guster. He's one today and is having a slumber party at Alpha Dog. I didn't get home from work until after 8 so he stayed out there.

Hope to have a nice lunch with my sisters tomorrow afternoon. Hope it works out. Love to all.

If you want a happy child, move to the Netherlands

4/22 Yawn

Started my day with PT at 7 AM and ended at 8:10 PM. Then I had to come home and write my article, so it's a very tiring day. Thanks so much, Cindy, for taking care of Gus. He loves walking with you and Kirby. How cool for me to see you guys trotting through the college as I was going to work. :)

Tonight's article--Assisted suicide: Compassionate murderers?