Thursday, January 19, 2006

1/19 To post or not to post

My son and d-i-l each have a blog. Both are wonderful writers--witty and smart. Beatka writes kind of like I do, in a folksy way, like talking to you over coffee. Rob, on the other hand, writes a wry and acerbic blog that is more like a newspaper column. I don't agree with his politics (very often). But I love his writing and his humor.

The only reason I haven't given out his blog address to all my family and friends is that I know some people will be offended. But I also know that most people will enjoy his writing, even though they won't agree with some of it.

Beata's blog is worth reading. She is from Poland, by way of Denmark and Okinawa, and is getting ready to move to the states with Rob for the first time. She's on an adventure and it's fun to share that with her.

Rob's blog is also worth reading. I'm thinking about posting his url here soon. My blog (for unknown reasons) gets quite a few hits every day. Posting his site would drive more traffic there, and would allow his writing to be seen by more people. I need to bite the bullet and just do it.

But not yet.


Jill and Todd said...

If you do post Rob's URL link, I hope that people will just remember that he is writing for himself, his exercise of his mind and his thoughts and feelings. No one has to agree with anything he says...and if you don't, then you just stop reading and go to another site.

By the way Rob, your style of writing makes it YOU. Don't change for anyone as it is your BLOG. - Love you. Sis.

Jerilyn Dufresne, author said...

I think people can read and disagree (I sure do). But if people read and get/stay upset, then I agree they should just stop reading.

Anonymous said...

Wow. I'm so grateful for the wonderful things my mom, my sister, and my wife have to say about my writing. Beata is always very supportive, and that means a lot to me. Reading Jill's and Mom's comments here is touching. It also makes me feel bad because their fear and apprehension is palpable.

Beata's blog is perfect for keeping up with our lives. She'll keep you informed and entertained with her sweet stories and photos. I love it and so will you.

Mom's right about my web log. I write it more like a column (in the most slanted, unedited, uncensored newspaper you could ever hope [or not hope] to read). It's not for everybody, and it's definitely not for kids.

I was going to include my URL in order to take the pressure off mom. I don't want her to feel responsible for whatever fallout she fears might ensue. But after writing "it's definitely not for kids," I've decided against posting the link here since everyone--young and old--gets invited to check out mom/Jer's boring life.

I'm not sure how best to do this, but maybe people should somehow "subscribe" in the beginning.

First, I need you to imagine being personally attacked on the basis of your religious and/or political views. By me.

Attacking family and friends is by no means what I do on my blog, and it's definitely not my aim. Just the same, some people invariably interpret writing of this nature as a personal affront no matter how clear or abundant the disclaimers and warnings may be.

So it's critical that you first consider the scenario and then take honest inventory of how that makes you feel and whether you think your relationship with me will suffer irreparably. Again, remember: I'm not writing to you. I'm just writing. This is simply an open invitation for you to observe as a 'third party' if you want. I've been far from home for so long now... If you want to know me better, I guess this is one opportunity. Without a doubt, though, it's an opportunity that you can pass up without hurting my feelings. It certainly might spare yours.

Here's a handful of words that some might use to describe parts of my blog: insightful, stupid, biased, refreshing, vile, sage, immature, intelligent, crap. I openly admit that they're all accurate.

This is much less of an issue than it might seem. Who am I? Nobody, really. Although I don't take myself nearly as seriously as my blog might indicate, I urge you to be judicious in subscribing (for both your sake and mine).

Email me at if you want the URL.

I LOVE YOU ALL. Remember that. :-)

Jerilyn Dufresne, author said...

Okay, I've hit the jackpot. Both my kids commented on the same page. With my daughter 1700 miles away and my son a million miles away (that's how far Japan is, right?), I'm so pleased they're "here."

Anonymous said...

You're funny, mom. I'm acerbic.

Ha! I love it.

Yes, Okinawa is just under 1 million miles away.

Love you.

Jerilyn Dufresne, author said...

Don't you ever sleep, o witty and acerbic one?

Anonymous said...

Going to sleep soon. I'm a night owl. It's Friday night anyway...

Jerilyn Dufresne, author said...

Yeah, I forgot it's Friday. I'm working all day Saturday and Sunday, so it's easy to forget.

Anonymous said...

You know we love you Rob, and I have NOT agreed with one single editorial that Cody has ever written, and yes, some even offend me, but I still show them to anyone that will read them because I am proud that I have raised a son that can write so well, and has mind of his own, and lives in a country that allows him that liberty, and hopefully, has a family that can agree or disagree and still love him and respect him. (and has a mom that loves run on sentences) Just saying you should share you writing with the rest of your family if you trust us like you should.
Love you
Aunt Cindy